ROM and banquet on different days: one wedding website for both
In Singapore it’s common to split the wedding in two. The solemnisation, which most people still call the ROM, is often small: close family, a few friends, sometimes a church service. The banquet comes days, weeks or months later and is where everyone else comes in. Two dates, two venues, often two guest lists. That’s where the confusion starts.
The questions guests will ask
- “Am I invited to the ROM, or just the dinner?”
- “Which day is the hotel one?”
- “What time should I arrive, and what do I wear to each?”
Every one of these turns into a WhatsApp message to you or your parents. A clear website answers them before they’re asked.
Put both occasions on one page
Give each occasion its own card near the top: what it is, the date, the time, the venue with a map link, and the dress code. Guests scan it in a few seconds on their phone. Keep the names plain, for example “Solemnisation” and “Wedding dinner”, rather than anything guests have to decode.
Say who each one is for
If the ROM is family only, say so kindly on the card, for example “For family, with dinner to follow on 18 October for everyone.” Guests who aren’t coming to the ROM won’t feel they missed something, and those who are won’t have to ask.
Keep RSVPs separate when the lists are different
If the ROM and banquet have different guest lists, treat them as two events with two RSVPs, so you get a clean headcount for each caterer. If nearly everyone comes to both, one RSVP for the banquet is usually enough and the ROM can be handled with a few personal messages.
A simple setup that works
- Add both occasions to your website, each with date, time, venue, map and dress code.
- Turn on RSVP for the occasion that needs a headcount, usually the banquet.
- Send each guest their RSVP link on WhatsApp, with a short line on which occasion it is for.
- Add the banquet table plan later so guests can find their seat on the night.
On Keep This Day you can list several occasions on one wedding website for free, and a ROM and a banquet with different guest lists can each have their own RSVP. See how it fits a Singapore wedding.